The loss of loved ones is something we all experience at some point in our lives. But some are harder to accept than others. In my life so far I have lost my fair few loved ones but one challenged me more than any of the others. A couple of years ago my cousin died in a car crash, she was hit by an un-marked police car and killed. She was only in her twenties and ended up leaving behind a loving husband, mother, siblings and family. But what made it even harder to understand and forgive was that she left behind three beautiful young boys. I didn’t understand for a long time why God took her, in my mind it was so unfair and unjust. When it happened I didn’t know how to ope with it all, I bottled my emotions up for days until one morning at school one of the girls played “A Whole New World” out of Aladin; this automatically reminded me of my cousin Fliss and when we used to watch it together along with my older sister. When I heard the song all the memories came flooding back to me and I just broke down in tears. When I was little myself and my sister used to spend a lot of time with Fliss but as we got older we stopped seeing so much of her and the last few years of her life I didn’t really see her at all. I know everyone says they wish they had done things differently but I truly wish I could go back and spend more time with her. When we buried her I wrote her a letter telling her about how much I would miss her and that I wish I has spent more time with her. Losing her made me realise we must live our lives for the moment. And not worry about tomorrow. You should tell the ones you love how much you love them everyday. Never go to bed on an argument because you may never be able to tell them how sorry you are. I now like to believe that God took her from us for a reason of his own and that she is still around watching over me.
Struggling with faith is something a lot of people go through in their lives. But having faith in something/anything can reapply help in times of trouble. It can be tested and forced to it’s limits but if you truly believe then it will always pull you through. Having faith gives you something to hold onto in times of need and something to depend on. Some people have their faith forced upon them but I believe that you don’t choose what you believe, it chooses you. When you aren’t looking for it or in your darkest times it comes to you like a shining light, when you find what’s right for you, you will know because it will feel right.
I’ve learnt a lot through my life so far (trust me I know that statement makes me sound very old but I’ve been through a lot in my 18 years). But if my life taught me anything it was that there are some very small minded people in this world and if you listen to everything they say then you’ll spend your whole life, living it the way someone else has told you to. One thing I have always tried to remember through my last few years is that no-one can put you down unless you give them the power to do so. As long as you believe in yourself then there is no need for you to listen to any negativity from others. But I would also like to thank all the people that ever put me down in my life because thanks to them I am the person I am today and I know my own mind.